SECRET NUMBER EIGHT: Femininity.

What is femininity? What is this quality in a woman that is so delightful to a man? Femininity is doing the exact opposite of what men do.

This seems obvious really. But so many women still make the big mistake of acting like men, to try and win a man’s love and respect. It just doesn’t work. In fact it has the opposite effect.

Masculine behavior in a woman repels most men. But a truly feminine woman, a woman who looks and acts femininely, is highly attractive and delightful to a man.

Most of us have femininity in abundance when we are young girls, but somewhere along the way, as we grow up, we lay it aside, or have it educated out of us.

SMILE

Why is our smile so important? Because it signals friendliness, serenity and contentment. These feminine qualities are highly appealing to a man.

On the other hand, men can be repelled by a serious faced or frowning woman. A  tense, clamped mouth puts them right off.

We all look more attractive when we smile. In fact a smile multiplies our attractiveness. It is a major feature of our appearance. Even more than our hair and clothing.

There is a Golden Rule about being feminine:  “WATCH WHAT MEN DO, AND DO THE OPPOSITE.”

TONGUE

The way we speak. Whether our marriage is a heaven on earth, or a hell on earth depends more on how we use our tongue thananything else we do.MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE, OUR CHOICE OF WORDS, AND THE TONE IN WHICH WE SPEAK THEM, WILL MAKE OR BREAK OUR MARRIAGE. 

OUR TONGUE WILL BRING US HAPPINESS ON EARTH, OR HELL ON EARTH. WE HOLD THE KEY.

Be kind while talking. This can be hard to do when we are irritated, or angry, but it is so vitally important.  So unless it is a very serious subject, our voice should have a heerful, gentle, smiley tone to it. It should radiate confidence and serenity.

CLOTHING

Never, ever under estimate the long term effect that your clothing can have on your husband’s feelings for you. It can have a profound, sub-conscious effect on his relationship with you.

This is an area, where many women, especially married women, fail to make the most of their femininity. In fact, most women’s clothing nowadays repels men, rather than attracts them.

“And men suffer away in silence. They just don’t like to criticize a woman’s appearance; maybe our behavior sometimes, but not our appearance. It’s not in their nature to do so.

Remember, when we dress femininely, we tend to act femininely.

 

DEPENDENCY

Being dependent on our husband can have an overpowering effect on him. It arouses his deepest love and protection. Few women realize how powerful an effect their dependency has on a man. 

Dependency is when we appear to a man to want his manly care and protection.

THE MORE YOUR HUSBAND FEELS THAT YOU WANT HIS PROTECTION AND HIS MASCULINE ABILITIES, THE MORE LOVABLE AND APPEALING YOU BECOME TO HIM

When you depend on a man, his masculine feeling of strength and power is delightful to him, even overwhelming at times. He longs to gather you up in his arms and protect you forever.

We women often feel like this toward little children when they’re upset, or hurt, or lost. It’s a powerful, emotional feeling. It creates and builds deep love. Young girls, with their natural air of helplessness in masculine things, arouse these powerful emotions in their fathers.

And so it is also with our husband. When he feels that we trust him, and depend on him, it arouses within him powerful emotions and deep love.

Always let your husbands, and your sons, feel that their masculine help and protection is needed and appreciated.

For us who already have a husband, let’s remember what we were like as young girls. How excited we could become. Our sense of wonder. Our cuteness. Our pretty dresses and hairstyles. Our childlike innocence. Our delightful femininity.

Ask your husband to honestly analyses your entire wardrobe, including footwear, nightwear and swimwear and rate everything feminine, or unfeminine. Then discard, or plan to discard anything he finds unfeminine



Source: “Fascinating womanhood” by Helen Andelin

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