Your husband’s God-given role is to lead you and provide for you. Allow him to do it.
“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you”
The more we woman take over a man’s role, the less masculine he feels. And the more masculine we become. To find contentment and satisfaction in our lives, we need to live our God-given roles.
Most men are, by their masculine nature, born leaders. They tend to be decisive, and have logical, able minds. They are also competitive, muscular, and have a strong desire to excel. Nor are they afraid of spiders, or the dark, or strange noises at night. But we women are different. We tend to be intuitive, and nurturing, and need security. We often hesitate, and change our minds when it comes to decision-making. Also we have a strong need to be loved and protected. And men like us this way. It makes them feel protective. Men love to protect a woman. When we make our man feel protective, it arouses his tender feelings. Just as tender feelings are aroused in us, when we feel protective towards a small child.
All organizations need a leader. A ship needs a captain. There needs to be a single person to make final decisions in important matters. A ship cannot have two captains. The family is no exception. As we read earlier, God has placed upon the husband, this right to finalize important family decisions. But only after consulting first with his wife, and if need be, with his children.
Of course, most of the time we are happy to let our husbands lead us. But there are times when want things our own way. Women use all kinds of pressure on their husbands to influence them. But remember Secret Number One, ‘Accept him.’ Even when we feel he is wrong, we must give him the ball and let him run with it.